Approach
People seek help for a variety of reasons. The reasons for seeking help are as many and varied as there are people on the planet. We all have our unique challenges and obstacles which stand between us and what we want.
It is my aim to help people:
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find relief
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solve problems
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take action
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know peace
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enjoy life.
It all begins with this very important question:
What do you really want?
The first step in a solution focused counseling approach is to discover what it is that you really want. Why have you sought professional help? People usually look to find help when there is a problem, or something is wrong. Our first step will be to discuss that, and explore some ideas of what you would want instead.
Sometimes, we get there by talking about the details of your vision: What resources do you need? What has been stopping you from being there already? Would anything in your life be at risk? In this process, we will examine what it will take to:
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Heal the Past
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Live in the Present
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Transform the Future
This beautiful caterpillar transforms into a pupa, and then again to a butterfly, It serves as a wonderful metaphor for growth and change:
 
In your life so far, you have already gone through an incredible series of metamorphoses from the moment that first cell was formed by the union of one sperm and one egg. It's magical!
Just think...
If you've been able to do that,
...what else might be possible?
Virginia Satir suggested that we think of ourselves and our many parts as a mandala. Mandala is a Sanskrit word which means ‘sacred circle.’ The central unit is called the " I am." This is the home of congruence and the place where I know my purpose and house my self-esteem. It is the spiritual part of me. From here I can do transformations.
The other seven units which support the "I am" are:
Body - the physical part of us. It needs to be nourished properly, cared for, and exercised in order to keep healthy.
Thoughts - the intellectual part of ourselves. It needs nourishment in the form of learning and growing. What do we feed our thoughts with?
Feelings - the part of ourselves that experiences our emotions. We each have a wide range of emotions which give our lives texture and richness. How do you respond to your various emotions? They all need to be embraced, for they are all parts of who we are.
Senses - the sensual part of us which include our eyes, ears, noses, our tongues, and our skin.
Relationships - the part of ourselves that interacts with others. What do you do to care for your relationships?
Context - the part of us that is defined by our surroundings: sights, sounds, aromas, colors, textures. Virginia Satir would have loved Feng Shui, which is a careful study of context and how it can impact our lives. How do you surround yourself?
Soul - Your spiritual part. Whether you are a confirmed Atheist, or whether you have religious beliefs, there is a part of you that is more than just your skin, bones, and blood. However you define this part has an effect on how you view yourself and the world. What do you do for the care and feeding of this part?
It is important to recognize and embrace each of these aspects of ourselves, and to ask ourselves if we are giving these parts what they need in order to thrive and to help our "I Am" part to thrive?
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